The sun is warming up in WNY and it finally feels like winter is behind us for good. This one felt like it would never end!!!!!!
Are you feeling the energy that spring brings and a renewed sense of possibility? I know I am.
I recently was invited to participate in a business training program. One of the first exercises we were asked to do was to create our ‘Best Day Ever’. Are you wondering what this has to do with business, with health, and well, with life in general?
Success in all areas of your life is directly proportional to your self-care.
And we aren’t talking about self- absorbed, indulgent care. Contrary to what we’ve been told, self-care nourishes our body, mind and soul. To put our best foot forward day in and out and serve as we do, we must first meet our own needs. To be able to give to others, we have to first give to ourselves.
This exercise might be a challenge for you. Logistically, it may seem impossible to find spare time when housecleaning, yard work, and bills need to be taken care of. Or maybe parental tapes are playing in your head telling you that your free time needs to be spent doing something constructive. Can you hear a parent telling you to not waste your time?
The ‘Best Day Exercise’ challenges you to think of what feeds your soul and rejuvenates your spirit.
Productivity is not a part of this equation.There are no “should’s”. You have been given a day to do exactly what YOU want.
So I sat with paper and pen, and asked myself, “If I had only one day to live how would I live it?”
I had no problem thinking of ‘Best Day Scenarios’.
Some of my ‘Best Day Scenarios’ include my family. Another is a solitary bike ride along Lake Ontario on a sunny, hot day. When I’m on my bike, the sun is shining and I feel the wind against my face, I feel at peace. I feel like I did as a child when we were free to spend the entire day outside running, swimming in the lake and climbing what we imagined were mountains. These days were pure bliss for me and being on my bike brings all these memories and feelings back.
In doing this exercise I realized that what feeds my soul and fuels my life is right here, right now.
My peace is here with the people, places, environments and activities that are in my life.
This one small exercise did so much. It filled me with gratitude and peace.
I encourage you to take the time now to figure out what your best day scenario would look like for you.
Sit down with pen and paper. Use your imagination and with no limits brainstorm possibilities.
Here are some questions to guide you:
- How do you hope to feel as you live your ‘Best Day Ever’ scenario?
• What would you be like? Are you at peace, confident, full of energy, adventuresome?
• Which activities would help you feel that way?
• What have you created or contributed?
• Who do you connect with?
• How does your highest self interact with the situations you face?
Planning your ‘Best Day Ever’ may be an exercise in gratitude to help you see what you already have in your life. Planning your best day ever may also reveal what is missing in your life.
If your ‘Best Day Ever’ scenarios seem only possible in a Disney movie, ask yourself, “ What is missing in my life right now that this scenario will fill”?
Is it a sense of excitement, connection, accomplishment, appreciation, love, respect, recognition, stimulation, meaning, peace, freedom, or relaxation that is missing in your life?
When you become aware of your needs think of how these needs might be met with possibilities that are accessible to you right now. Maybe your need for adventure is closer to you than you realize. For example, we live 10 minutes from Niagara Falls and there are some amazing trails that meander right beside the Niagara River. Or maybe your need for creativity can be met in taking a paint class. Sometimes, what we most need is right in front of us.
Now the other part of this challenge once you have created your ‘Best Day Ever’ is to MAKE THE TIME to actually do it.
So get out your calendar, plan when that day is going to happen. Make your self-care a priority!
So tell me, how does your ‘Best Day Ever’ look? In creating your ‘Best Day Ever’ what have you learned is missing in your life right now? I would love to know how your day looks!